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Friday, July 22, 2011

The Plan

Well, it's that time of year again.  All of us homeschooling moms are flipping through catalogs, clicking away on the internet, and chatting up our friends on one topic:  CURRICULUM.  Everything that didn't work last year is fresh in our minds, and all those beautifully enticing books are calling our names.  We have big plans to catch up in areas we feel we've lost ground, and look forward to new endeavors and a fresh start.

It feels so good to let go of those old books.  We've looked at them for too long, and their tattered covers and marked up pages are signs of a year well spent.  But a new year is coming soon, and the possibilities are endless.

As Catholic homeschoolers, we have so many options to choose from, of curricula that bring the goodness of our Faith and strong academics into our homes.  This is such a blessing, but it can also be a curse.  It's so easy to doubt what we're doing, to fall victim to the "grass is greener" mentality.  In reality, living our Faith comes from our hearts and our actions, not our school books, and that's what is most important in our children's lives.  The fact is, I could choose to teach my children from any of these good Catholic curriculum providers, and it would be fruitful.  If we're teaching and living our Faith, and keeping our academic standards high, if we're instilling a strong moral compass in their hearts, and letting them be kids, then we're doing our job, no matter where we order our books from.

So this year, instead of spending hours on websites and blogs, cleverly piecing together the perfect combination of materials for my children, I decided to go back to my roots:  Seton.

It's where we started in this homeschool journey, and it works for us.  And if it's not broken, why am I always trying to fix it?  We're doing straight-up full enrollment for the oldest three:  Blake - 7th grade, Owen - 4th grade, Peyton - 2nd grade.  I'll be piecing together Kindergarten for Oliver, with the materials I have, including the Catholic Children's Treasure Box series.

I can't express how good I feel about this decision.  How right it feels to take some of the pressure off of myself, and let go just a little.  I think we beat ourselves up too much on the idea that there's always something that might be better than what we're doing.  It might be more creative, more fun, more reverent, cheaper, easier... maybe so, but what am I losing in the process of chasing it down?

I have the utmost respect for those mothers who are able to wrap their brains around the grand scope that is each child's educational needs, and put together a year's worth of studies to meet them.  I've just accepted that I am not one of those mothers, and my time is better spent elsewhere, while Seton does the planning for me.  It's good to accept my limitations and feel good in my own homeschooling skin!

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Hard (drive) Times

Hello?! ...Hello  ...Hello  ...hello  ...hello.

Is there an echo in here?  In this empty space?

So... even though it's summer and I have some extra time (well now, that seems like an exaggeration.  I guess I have just the right amount of time, instead of the 6 hour deficit that I have everyday during the school year.), I'm still not blogging.

You know how you occasionally hear about someone's hard drive on their computer going bad?  And maybe they'll say something like, "My computer is fried.  Out of nowhere.  We didn't have anything backed up.  We lost everything."  And you think, "Wow.  That would be devastating.  Thank God that's not me."  And then in your head you come up with 10 reasons why it couldn't be you, won't be you?  At least that's what I've done.

Yeah.

Our computer was fried.  Happened out of nowhere, just started making an awful whirring kind of noise when I tried to start it up, and then, nothing.  We didn't have anything backed up.  We lost everything.

So.  It's been interesting.  Slightly devastating.  And interesting.  Suffice it to say, we're starting over with a shiny new desktop and big plans for how we're going to back everything up :o).

So maybe I'll be checking in here more!  Or maybe I'll be sipping sweet tea while the boys run through the sprinkler for the thousandth time.  Either way - Happy Summer!

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

A Family Event

Well, we have ourselves a runner.

Blake ran a local 5k race over the weekend.  We weren't sure what to expect, as it was his first official 5k, and he hasn't been running as much since track season ended.  I told him that if he could do it in under 30 minutes I thought he'd be doing great.

I was at the finish line with some of the little ones.  I couldn't believe how strong he looked as he came in!  He ran it in 25:49, and was barely winded.  I ran this race years ago, and I remember it being kind of overwhelming.  It's on the city streets, and it seems to take you further and further away from the park, and all the while you know you have to get back there somehow!  I really thought he might end up walking some of it, but he didn't, he ran the whole 3.1 miles.

I'm so thankful that he's found something he likes to do, that is so good for him.  I think he has a lot of potential, and I can't wait to watch him grow and develop as an athlete.  I'm also hoping that having a runner in the house might get me back into it.  We'll see.

And in one of those full circle, how funny is that, kind of moments, I was standing with Blake right after he finished the race and I looked up and saw an old friend from high school.  I ran cross country and track with him, and he was the best runner on our team, far better an athlete than I could ever dream of being, and my son had just beat him in a race!  Of course, he's 30 years old and was pushing a stroller as he ran... but still! ;o)

The other highlight of the night was the One Mile Fun Run.  Open to any and all participants, we challenged the younger kids to try it out.  I even put my running shoes on and jumped in there with Isaac.  He was so cute!  He would run all-out for a minute and then just stop.  I would ask him if he was done, and he'd say, "No, me run!"  and start running again.  We did that for about a half mile, then he stopped and asked me to pick him up.  So we dropped out, and walked over to the finish area to wait for the other boys, except when we got there, Isaac took off running again.  He ended up looping back around and running through the finish line while everyone cheered, thinking he had finished the whole race.  It was the cutest darn thing ever.  I wish I had pictures.  Owen, Peyton and Oliver all finished the mile in around 12 minutes.  They all looked so proud!  I don't think it occurred to any of them that they could run a race like their big brother.

The weather was beautiful, and it was such a fun way to end the weekend, all together as a family, being active.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

A Word of Advice

If you've had a long week, and you're tired to the bones, and your mind won't stop spinning with all that is on your plate... If you're working at the computer, even if it's something important, and even if the hours in the day are too short to do it all, if you're busy, occupied, tied up... even if you're all these things at once, and a little voice from behind you says, "Mama, will you play Go Fish with me?".... do it.

Drop everything and run, don't walk, to the floor with that child, and play Go Fish like you're five years old again.

It'll be worth it.  I promise.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

And Another!

Yet another birthday celebrated in our family today.
Isaac is the big 3.  (He still pretty much acted 2 today though ;o).)
We took him to the zoo, had pizza for dinner, cake and presents.  It was a nice family day.
I kept forgetting that it was Father's Day as well!  I guess that shows where priority falls.  A 3rd birthday trumps a grown-up thing thing any day of the week.
Mr. Smith did get to sleep in a little bit, (The man gets up at 4:30am six days a week, 8:30 is like sleeping half the day away.) but that was the extent of the recognition for him.  He got his gift earlier in the weekend...which leads me to the Big Event we had this weekend... which leads me to how. darn. exhausted. I am right now, and I'll have to save it for another post...
Happy birthday, Isaac!

Friday, June 17, 2011

Happy Birthday!

Have to sneak on here before the day is officially over, to acknowledge my baby's big day.  Sebastian is ONE.  I can hardly believe it.
I think I woke up this morning and realized a new identity.  I am currently a woman without an infant.
That doesn't seem to happen very often.
Now if he decides to wean anytime soon, we'll be in truly uncharted territory.  The last time I was neither pregnant nor nursing (or both), was in July of 2007.  That lasted for exactly one month.  I've had 3 pregnancies since then, 2 healthy babies and a little saint in heaven.
We'll see what's in store for us this year.
God is so good.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

A Saintly Intervention

Full disclosure:  I am not a dog person.

I have never really had the patience for animals as pets.  I don't like a dog that is too invasive, attacking you (albeit with love and excitement) as soon as you walk in the door.  I have a lot of duties to juggle on a daily basis, and adding puppy care and training to the list was not something I was eager to do.  Still, I considered it for the sake of my family.

Many times throughout our 12+ years of marriage, Mr. Smith and I have toyed around with the idea of getting a dog.  We've researched breeds, gone to shelters, talked to breeders.  We both grew up with dogs for pets, and he, especially, wanted to have one for our family.  Right about the time we were getting serious about getting a dog, several years ago, we realized that Owen is allergic to them and we wouldn't be able to.

Fast forward to 2 years ago.  My sister and her husband did extensive research, and decided on a cockapoo as their choice breed.  They brought home a boy puppy named Bruno.  A year later they gave Bruno a playmate, his half-sister, Paisley.  Our boys fell in love with these puppies on many visits.  We realized that the claims of them being hypo-allergenic, non-shedding dogs were 100% true.  Owen had no problem being around them.  We began to consider getting our own.

As conversations on the topic progressed, and excitement at the possibility grew, I put in an email to the breeder, asking him to let us know when they had a litter available.  He did.  We went out the next day.  We came home with Bosco.

He was incredibly cute.  A little ball of fluff and joy.  The boys loved holding him, playing with him.  He was sweet, tiny, slow moving, and timid.  For about 3 days.  Then he woke up.  He chewed on things, pottied in the house, began nipping at the little ones, and he barked.  Oh, the barking.  Not too long into this puppy adventure, I began to have serious doubts.  About our sanity, mostly.  About how we could possibly keep this up.  How I could possibly learn to love and care for this little fireball that was wreaking so much havoc on my daily routines.  All I could see when I looked at him was a chore.  Sadly, dollar signs would flash through my mind.  I suppressed thoughts calculating the amount of money he would cost us over his lifetime.  I tried to push aside the anxiety I felt over this decision to add to our family... with a dog.  A dog!  What were we thinking?!

I knew I could quickly be consumed with regret if I didn't change the way I was thinking.  There was no going back, Bosco was a part of our life and I had to come to terms with that.  Really, I had to embrace it.

I thought of St. Francis of Assisi.  What a wonderful saint.  And one of his loves?  Animals!  Surely if this great saint could hold animals in such esteem as part of God's creation, then I could learn to love this puppy.  I began to ask St. Francis to help me.  I asked him to pray for me to love this dog.  Whenever I started to feel overwhelmed, I would think of St. Francis and know that there is good in caring for and loving God's creatures.

My heart began to soften.  I found myself enjoying time with Bosco.  I would stop several times a day to rub his belly and scratch his ears.  I felt a smile cross my face immediately at the sight of those eager puppy eyes, tail wagging, hoping I'd play with him and shower attention on him.  Even when he was being naughty, even when others in the house were fed up with him, I, a non-dog person, could see the bright side of having this furry creature in our midst. 

I don't see dollar signs anymore.  I am no longer counting the cost or the toll, but now the fun and the blessings.

I can promise you this:  This change was not within my own power to obtain.

Thank you St. Francis.  Thank you, Lord, for blessing an open mind with a change of heart.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Giveaway Fun

Amy's hosting a giveaway, over at Knit Together.
An adorable Saint Michael the Archangel doll.

(and while you're there, congratulate her on the good news!)

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Baby's First Haircut

  before...



 after!


my little blondie

Sebastian was getting so shaggy!  Plus, he's a little furnace, and I knew he'd never make it all summer with all that hair.  It actually wasn't his very first, I've had to trim it before to keep it out of his eyes.  This is the first time I took it all off.  I could eat him up!

Monday, June 6, 2011

What If There's Not an Infinite Supply?

Is it possible, that God gave me a massive amount of patience for use throughout my lifetime, but when it's gone, it's gone?

That I was supplied with this generous, yet finite, quantitiy, and I've used it all up in 12 years of parenting?

That's not how it works, right?

Which means this is just a lull.  Just a momentary lapse in my ability to tap into the God-given, grace-driven well of patience, for the use and good of my children?

Phew.  Good thing.  Cause parenting is impossible without it.

I'll let you know when it returns.

Friday, June 3, 2011

Please Vote!

This website is taking votes for the "Top 25 Faith Blogs by Moms", and a pagan blogger is currently winning... so disturbing!  We all know Catholic Icing is a great site, but she entered late compared to the rest.  Let's try to catch her up with votes!  You can vote once a day, just by clicking on the orange circle.
 

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Right Now

~ all of the neighborhood kids have left for school
~ my 5- and 7-year-olds are eating their oatmeal on the patio, and chatting like old pals
~ the baby is crawling around from brother to brother, babbling
~ the 9-year-old is telling me (in detail) about how his daddy taught him to spin a pitch
~ my windows are open, it's going to be cooler today
~ I'm looking forward to a morning out, with beautiful weather and good friends
~ I have a hot cup of fresh coffee in my hands

Right Now
I am blessed.

Right Now
I want to capture this moment, this simple morning, and remember it forever.  When life gets complicated, I want to have this moment to conjure up, to bring relief, a sweet memory.  Living in the moment.

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Memorial Day Weekend - 2011

We had a great weekend, visiting my sister, brother-in-law, and brand new baby nephew, on the other side of the state.  With having a new baby ourselves last summer, it had been about a year and a half since we went camping, so we decided this would be a good opportunity to break out the camping gear and give it a go.  We stayed at a sweet little campground about 15 minutes away from my sister.

It's a bit like rolling dice to just pull a campground off the internet and reserve a site for the weekend.  We've done that before and been very surprised by what we saw when we got there (and not in a good way).  So we were a little nervous, but it ended up being just perfect.  On Friday night they showed Gnomeo and Juliet with free popcorn, under their pavillion at dusk.  Saturday morning the kids could tie-dye t-shirts for a small fee.  Then Saturday evening it was free root beer floats.  





I had requested a site next to the playground, but really, you never know what you're going to get.  We've stayed at one where they had 2 broken down swings and a sorry looking teeter totter and claimed it was a playground.  This one was awesome.  It had tons of equipment which was all freshly painted, and they were laying new mulch down under the climbers as we set up our tent.  There was even an old-school merry-go-round, which you never see anymore at parks.  Well, there's a reason you never see them, they're treacherous!  I lost count of how many times a child got hurt, came crying, and was banned from the merry-go-round by Mr. Smith (only to use puppy dog eyes and promises of safe playing to earn the privilege back within the hour).  It was by far their favorite thing there.  I predicted stitches for at least one of them, but there were no major injuries in the end.

On Saturday we took a day trip to a state park.  It had a hiking path to sand dunes and a beautiful, quiet beach.  I couldn't live without my Ergo for things like that.  The weather was supposed to be terrible (in fact, that almost stopped us from going), but it turned out to be perfect.  A little chilly, but nothing that would stop these boys from going into the water even in their clothes.









 Isaac had a run-in with the water...

 which led to this...

and eventually this, big brother's flannel.

Would you believe I didn't get one single picture of the new baby?!  What was I thinking?!  I guess I was too busy cuddling and staring to bother with a camera.

We cleaned up and headed home (after having dinner with the babymooners) on Sunday evening.  There were storms moving in and we didn't want to have nothing but a tent to hunker down in.  We're brave, but not that brave.

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Oobleck

Today we made Oobleck!

 
It had been a few years since we did this last, so most of the kids didn't really remember it.  They all had so much fun playing with it and handling it different ways for different effects.

 
It kept them busy for the better part of 2 hours...

 
...and anytime one of my children uses a term like "non-Newtonian liquid" and actually understands what it means...I'd say that's time well spent. 

 
It really is such cool stuff.  Every time I put my hands into it I had a hard time walking away.  Brings out the kid in everyone, I'm sure.
 

Worth noting:  Contrary to how these photos probably appear, clean up was not bad at all.  The dry stuff flakes off and sweeps easily, and a wet rag does the rest.

Saturday, May 14, 2011

The Fullness of Life

It's been a long week.  I am tired in a way I haven't been for awhile.

Today should be kind of like the finale though, and I'm looking forward to the end of this show.

Mr. Smith is at work this morning.  Six day work weeks are hard.  Families need the weekend to recover and reconnect, and cutting into the first half of it really takes away from that.

Once the kids are up, we'll be go, go, go until this evening.  A track meet, two soccer games, baseball practice for two, a birthday party....speaking of the birthday party, it's my 5-year-old who is going, his friend from soccer is turning five.  It's a couple of hours at an indoor play place.  Simple and fun enough, right up his alley.  Except that the Mr. and I have to be at a gazillion different places during that time.  No way to even go drop him off.  The mom offered to take him with her, and since the boys have a soccer game together shortly after, she's going to keep him right up til game time and bring him up there for us.

Quite helpful, seemingly, on this crazy day of destinations.  So why am I nervous?

Well, for starters, he's never been away from me for that long.  It should be about 5 hours total.  I understand there's probably some snickering going on right now, after that line.  He's not an infant, and even if he was, the average kid is away from his mom for that long by the time he's a month old.  That's not how we operate.  Also, Oliver has severe food allergies.  They'll be eating pizza, cake, and ice cream at the party.  He can't have any of those things.  Period.  Not a single bite.  I'm packing him a lunch, with a sandwich and chips, and oreo cookies for dessert.  Not exactly the same thing.  I'm hoping he handles it well, since this will be the first time I'm not there to cushion the blow of being on the outside of things.

Do I trust the parents?  Absolutely.  They're sweet, level-headed, doting, Christian parents.  A doctor and a nurse to boot.  Yeah, he'll be in good hands.  Still shooting extra prayers toward his guardian angel though.

The track meet today is the last one for the year.  Truthfully, this sport has been fun, rewarding, and a definite growth experience for Blake, but it's been the most taxing on our family life.  Weeknight dinners have been compromised, and Saturdays have been swallowed up whole with meets.  I'm proud of his accomplishments.  I'm also glad it ends today.

My mother-in-law has been in town all week.  That's made for extra outings, more activity, and more cleaning for company (although, admittedly, not nearly enough of the cleaning).  She heads home today.  Another step toward normalcy.

We have a new niece!  My sister-in-law went into labor early in the day on Thursday, and we waited anxiously by our phones all day for news.  She was born late that evening, and I got to go see her yesterday.  Oh, the blessing of a newborn...so precious.  One down, one to go - my sister is due in eight days now.

Mr. Smith has suggested that we order some pizza tonight, when all is said and done, and sit down and chill out, and... chill out.  I couldn't agree more.

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Happy Mother's Day!

A few of my gifts:
  • a baby who woke up babbling "mama", for the first time, and kept it up all day
  • sweet, handmade cards from my boys
  • a note on my cupboard door (the one where the coffee is, my first stop in the morning), from my almost-12-year-old, who's still not too old to leave me a little surprise
  • a new (to us) van in the driveway.  one with doors that all open, air conditioning that works, and a radio!
  • dinner at my mom's, which I didn't have to cook
  • time with every one of my nieces
  • SUNSHINE!
  • a beautiful Mass
  • a God-given husband
  • a blessed life
Mother's Day blessings to all!

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Holy Saturday - 2011

On Holy Saturday, we dyed Easter eggs, of course!

Did I mention we were sick?  ;o)

Again, quiet day, not a lot of fuss.  We tried our hand at natural dye this year.  It was a lot of fun and I really love the colors we came out with.  

We basically put our eggs in pans, covered them with water, threw in the dying agent and a splash of vinegar , and boiled/simmered them for 15 mins.  This didn't make for very bright colors, so we took them off the heat and let them sit in the pans for awhile afterward.
 there are eggs under there!


 red cabbage


 beets (I thought these would be pink!)


 a can of cherry pie filling


 instant coffee granules


 frozen grape juice concentrate


 spinach (*the spinach was not giving us any color and I got impatient.  I cheated on this one, there were 3 drops of green food color in with the spinach)


 carrot tops


 we also used chili powder (light orange) and curry powder (yellow)


 aren't they pretty?


These are the eggs we hide once the children are in bed.  They hunt for them, along with their baskets, on Easter morning.

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Good Friday - 2011

Once again, we were sick on Good Friday.  In fact, what had been a pretty classic flu for the rest of us, has developed into pneumonia for Isaac.  No wonder he spent Easter weekend in a lifeless little heap.  He's on antibiotics now, and hopefully the road to recovery too.  Prayers for my little sweetness are appreciated!

So on Good Friday Mr. Smith just worked in the morning, since we were all planning on going to the Stations of the Cross at church.  Once it became clear that we wouldn't all be going, Mr. Smith insisted that I go alone.  He knew how much I had been looking forward to it.  As I was walking out the door, Oliver decided he wanted to go with me, and I was so glad!

Our parish does a beautiful service of the Stations at noon on Good Friday, with reflections and music, and the kids from the youth group act out the Stations as we pray through them.  It's quite beautiful and moving, and I can't help but tear up every year.

We had Hot Cross buns, for lunch rather than breakfast, since I didn't start making the dough until 10:00 am or so :o).  They were delicious either way.  I'm still conflicted about having such a treat on a day of fasting and abstinence, but a tradition is a tradition.  The children enjoy them, and they're exempt from fasting anyway, and it's a good lesson for us grown-ups to only eat one instead of the three or four I would have liked to have eaten ;o).
We had a simple lentil soup and bread for dinner.

We also started the Divine Mercy Novena as a family.

Mr. Smith and I always watch The Passion on Good Friday evening, and this year was no exception.  However, with all the ups and downs of The-Week-of-Illness, I was wiped out, and am sorry to say I didn't even make it to the scourging.  Sleep was calling, and I gave in.